The Pain of Rejection

One the deepest pains humans experience is the pain of rejection, the pain of feeling nobody wants you. Rejection gives rise to tension, fear, isolation and a terrible anguish. This inner pain destroys inner peace. One of the most effective ways of beginning to see beauty within the pain of rejection is through genuine communion. To be in communion with someone means to be with them. In communion we discover we actually belong together, and truly need each other. Communion means accepting another just as they are, with all their warts and baggage, all their imperfections and weaknesses, in all their pain and need.

Communion does not mean doing something for someone. It means being with someone; it means showing someone their own beauty and value. In communion, we give each other the gift of the freedom to grow. Communion’s main enemy is elitism, and seeds of elitism are within all of us. Elitism is at the heart of apartheid and every form of racism.

St. Francis of Assisi would encourage us to bring the beautiful gift of communion to the refugees and the poor of the world. He would urge us to work to create a society that is founded on welcome and respect, embracing the most vulnerable among us, a society free of frontiers, divisions and forced displacement, a world where the value of hospitality is extended to everyone.


1 Response to “The Pain of Rejection”

  1. 1 aliceny January 3, 2014 at 6:05 am

    Rejection is such a hurtful thing to do to another person. It’s pervasiveness has within it the seeds to destroy that person’s inner peace and to warp their emotional and spiritual growth.

    Your concise definition of ‘communion’ — what it is and what it is not — is so helpful and needs to be meditated upon.

    Thank you, Gerry.

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