The Pain of Rejection

One the deepest pains
humans experience
is the pain of rejection
the pain of feeling nobody wants you.
Rejection gives rise to
tension, fear, loneliness
and a terrible anguish.
This inner pain
destroys inner peace.

One of the most effective ways
of beginning to see beauty
within the pain of rejection
is through genuine communion.
To be in communion with someone
means to be with them.
In communion we discover
we actually belong together,
and truly need each other.
Communion means
accepting another
just as they are,
with all their warts and baggage,
all their imperfections and weaknesses,
in all their pain and need.
Communion does not mean
doing something for someone.
It means being with someone;
it means showing someone
their own beauty and value.

In communion,
we give each other
the gift of
the freedom to grow.
Communion’s main enemy
is elitism,
and seeds of elitism
are within all of us.
Elitism is at the heart of
aparteid and every form of racism.


2 Responses to “The Pain of Rejection”

  1. 1 Lisa Juriga February 22, 2012 at 5:38 am

    Thanks Gerry, I needed this reminder. It is so easy to look for ways to separate myself from others. All the while, I should be seeking unity!

  2. 2 Jerry February 22, 2012 at 10:25 am

    That’s a very interesting use of the word “communion”. I would normally have expressed it as “acceptance” instead thinking of communion as a religious rite. But the dictionary definition of “communion” includes the word “intimate” which adds an important dimension. It changes the frame of reference from “I accept you” to “we share something sacred together” which is a wonderful re-framing of that ideal. Thanks.

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